Where are All the Good Men? Columbia's "Rebel Belle" Aims to Find Them

Columbia, South Carolina - October 7, 2009 - It's a common joke that all the good men are taken or gay, but the self-help industry has expanded that very idea into a stream of business: Nearly 30,000 books devoted to finding a husband flood the Amazon marketplace. Meanwhile, services like astrology, travel, and feng shui are emphasizing finding a soulmate as a side benefit. Even a recent episode of The Oprah Winfrey Show ("The One" in April 2007) was dedicated to soulmates, and a whole section of oprah.com now is reserved for users to share stories of finding "the one."

Despite asking, "Where are all the good men?" and implying that none are available, most single women find themselves still yearning for a real romantic connection. Some find themselves frustrated at being "bum magnets" stuck in a cycle of attracting men who don't value them. Finding a real solution presents a challenge of time, energy, and emotional strength, so others may adopt an "I don't need a man" attitude to altogether avoid the issue.  

In addition, those who are paired may find their current relationship lacking intimacy or a matter of "settling." In The Atlantic ("Marry Him" in March 2008), author Lori Gottlieb blatantly suggests settling: "Settle! That's right. Don't worry about passion or intense connection... if you want to have the infrastructure in place to have a family, settling is the way to go." In the next paragraph, however, she reveals, "Obviously, I wasn't always an advocate of settling." So what happened?

Dr. Christian Pankhurst believes that mental, physical, and emotional defense patterns may prevent women from opening themselves in relationships--and keep them from meeting their ideal partners. His work is helping women to disarm these defenses to open themselves and surrender to love, while creating clear boundaries and inspiring deep love. Instead of settling with a wrong match or eschewing romance, Pankhurst encourages a woman to re-connect to her feminine radiance and empower herself to choose a partner who will reflect her magnificence. On Monday, October 12, Pankhurst--founder of Embracing Change and finalist on Britain's Next Top Coach--will discuss these issues in a special episode just for women seeking men.    

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