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February 6, 2008
Issue #17
a Southern Voice for Bold Self-Expression
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Oh My God – I’ve Finally Become My Mother

I remember this day as if it were yesterday. The moment is crystallized in memory. There I was, pondering my life—how I dressed, how I decorated my home, how I interacted with my (now ex) husband, where I worked, where I lived, how I raised my kids, and how I was racing through life. I came to a screeching halt and said to myself:

“Oh My God—I’ve finally become my mother!”

I don’t remember being angry or frustrated with my epiphany, but simply dumbfounded. It felt like The Twilight Zone. I laugh about it now, but in that moment I asked myself a very obvious question: “If I’m not my mother, then WHO AM I?”

This one powerful question changed the course of my life forever. It set me on a journey of self-discovery that I’m still juiced by today.

I believe most women, especially here in the South, have roles modeled for them. We take on roles without questioning whether they’re authentic or true to who we are. Is any of this familiar to you?

Do you ever wonder...

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Human Design: It’s Not Personal. It’s Just Energy!

Do you love who you are? Do you love your partner? What is love anyway? Is it that feeling you long for when connecting with your partner? Is it the emotion that draws you to another? Is it something you seek to feel within yourself? Perhaps love is the ultimate expression of commitment you expect from your “soul mate,” husband or significant other.

However you define it, LOVE is connecting, interacting and aligning your energies with another person. It’s expressing your truest essence and values. It’s integrating all of you with another person while fully embracing all of who they are. Sounds simple, doesn’t it? Yet, it’s one of the most challenging experiences of life.

Energies exchange when people come together; attraction, repulsion and at times absolute magic happens, and of course... LOVE. Each individual expresses their unique nature bringing to the relationship all the thoughts, emotions and perspectives collected and maintained through a lifetime of experiences.

Attempting to connect, relate, combine and integrate these two very independent energies, perspectives, beliefs, judgments and modes of behavior, “loving” becomes a challenge. Often feelings get hurt. We feel rejected or take things personally. Better yet, we guilt, blame and shame the other person for not being easy to love.

So, how do we make this “loving” thing simple? How do we stay true to who we are, love the other person for who they are, experience a fabulously LOVING relationship without taking things personally?

It’s NOT personal—it’s just energy!

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