Living in the Inquiry

Are you enjoying the process of creating and manifesting the desires of your life? Are you enjoying your journey?

Or, are you one of the individuals today that are clamoring toward some destination with your head down, scattered and frantic that you haven't YET created what you want in your life? 

That's my experience today of many of the people in my world. They are frantic and in fear. I actually have the experience of clients and friends right now that are saying to me, 'OMG'D what's happening? What am I supposed to be doing? I'm not enough. When is it going to be my time? How come I haven't made it yet? What's wrong with me? What do I do, and how do I make 'it' happen?" (whatever 'it' is....)

Their fear is palpable. It's visceral.  It's what these individuals have decided in their minds to be true, and in their world - it's true!

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Here's a Li'l Rebel Belle Truth: When you decide something, when you make a decision about your reality, you collapse all of the other possibilities available to you into that ONE ACTUALITY. You literally shut the door on all other possibilities other than that ONE DECISION. You close the door to all other opportunities. You close the door on the Creator. You collapse any and ALL possibility into THAT One Reality. 

Sobering isn't it? With that in mind wouldn't it serve to be careful about what YOU decide? Given that, HOW does one keep the door open? How does one stay open to the endless possibilities available in this day and time? How does one NOT close the door? Now that's a great inquiry! The answer? 

DON'T DECIDE ANYTHING. Be patient. Live in the Inquiry!

The great Spotted Eagle once shared this nugget of wisdom: 'Sometimes we get impatient and decide - just to have the certainty of an answer. Remember, your power is in the inquiry, not the answer. We want to have the patience to allow truth to emerge. Deciding, collapses the field of all possibility.'

Your Mind loves certainty. It needs to know. It needs to be safe. It needs to be sure of an outcome. Here's the thing. The one thing that IS certain- There is NO certainty! And, there is no security. What there is - is - possibility!

Your Mind has an agenda, and that agenda is to keep you safe, sane (if that's possible LOL) and secure - to SURVIVE. It needs to know that you will NOT make any mistake that you made in the past, and that you are prepared for ANYTHING in your future. It will tell you lies. It will make up stories. It will tell you what you 'should do', 'could do', and 'ought to do' to prove yourself worthy, to avoid confrontation and rejection, and to make sure you have ALL the resources and love you require to be whole and complete. Whew! Now, that's a mouth full. I got tired simply sharing about minds needs and fears. 

How Do You Live in the Inquiry?

(1) Become comfortable with not knowing. You actually didn't come here to know or to be comfortable. You came to courageously overcome your fears and to transform. 

(2) Accept what is. Accept the current circumstances of your life. Be grateful for what you have. This will ground your energy and bring you into the eternal present moment. 

(3) Breath, relax and smile. 'You did not come to the physical time and place to prove anything to anyone - to prove yourself worthy or to make your mark on the chart. You came forth out of the sheer exuberance for life.' ~ Abraham Hicks

(4) Embrace uncertainty - like your long-lost lover and friend. God does not create in the land of certainty and the land of the familiar. Creativity abounds in uncertainty, the land of the unfamiliar, and F.O.P. - the Field Of all Possibility. 

(5) Focus on the Essence. Focus on the feeling experiences you desire for your journey in this life. My Essence experiences are Freedom, Fun, Spiritual Community, Connection, Contribution and Flow. What are yours? 

(6) Live in the Inquiry.  Ask, 'What's possible? What is the highest ideal for my life? What's possible for my life when I am no longer resistant to where I am or I'm no longer frustrated by my past, or anxious and worried about my future? Your Mind doesn't have the answer to these questions. It hasn't practiced these questions over and over. What it HAS practiced is, 'Why is it not happening for me? What am I supposed to do? When will my ship come in?' Live in the Inquiry of What's Possible!

(7) Be patient with fruition. Give the Universe time to respond. Give the Universe time to do its work on your behalf. Trust your connection to Source. Know that ALL is well. Really it is. 

As the illustrious OMNI Emmanuel shares, 'There are no rights or wrongs, but only the meanderings along the path of experience towards that which fulfills, inspires and energizes you. All is well with you and your world, really it is! 

You are deeply and exquisitely loved.'

Given you are frustrated, feeling stuck, and tired of effort and struggle, and ready to live in the inquiry, give me a  call (803)-665-0847 or send me an email at 


Tuck Self is a SELF-Empowerment and Listening Coach and Catalyst, and a Robbins-Madanes Trained Coach. For 15+ years, she has provided individual and group Coaching Programs, Workshops and Retreats that facilitate personal discovery, development, spiritual growth and authentic living. The foundations of her unique coaching style are Human Design, BG5™ and The Gene Keys and Golden Pathway; Systems that bring powerful insights and strategies for self-illumination, self-love and self-mastery, as well as creating life, love and work that resonate with your heart and soul. 

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